Confusing lust or general excitement for the emotional connection and love are mistakes many of us make early on. How can we distinguish ourselves when most of us don’t understand our sexuality at all?
Add to the fact that women’s sexual arousal is less simple and varied than men’s, that the discussion of personal sexuality remains rather taboo, and that female sexuality has only been studied quite recently, and its mystery is, well, not a mystery.
Even with the aforementioned opportunities against us, maturity and experience often bring clarity.
Ideally, we learn a lot about our body and its superior abilities to become aroused and experience an amazing and rewarding pleasure.
We learn what turns our boisterous fires on and off and hopefully share great sexual intimacy with ourselves and our partners. Love and lust don’t always have to go together, but it’s really great when they do.
The mystery of sexual pleasure
Our body goes through four phases of the sexual cycle when we respond to sex. When you’re turned on, your heart beats faster, and your breathing becomes more difficult. Your skin may turn red. More blood flows to your genitals.
The clitoris swells, and the penis becomes erect. The nipples harden, and the vagina can become wet. Muscles all over the body contract and increase sexual tension.
The clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones due to its high concentration of 8,000 nerve endings. By stimulating an erogenous zone, a sexual physiological response can be triggered.
As your pleasure intensifies, your vagina swells, and its walls darken. The clitoris becomes hypersensitive to touch. The testicles pull upwards.
At the point of climax, when sexual arousal has reached its peak. You will feel a series of intense muscle contractions as your body releases the tension.
The muscles of the vagina and uterus contract. The muscles at the base of the penis tighten and relax, releasing semen during ejaculation.
After you have exhausted your energies, your body will return to its pre-sexual state. Your breathing calms down. The muscles relax.
The penis and vagina return to their original size and color. You may feel calm, satisfied, or tired.
How to improve female sexual arousal disorder
We have sex for many different reasons, not just arousal. It could be to increase intimacy or to make your partner happy.
The way we react to sex can be different for each person. Many people with women with vaginas don’t always reach orgasm during penetrative sex, even if they enjoy it.
Some people have sex without feeling aroused. Others have several orgasms in a row and are still not satisfied.
It will be interesting to note that orgasm isn’t always a reward for sex. However, if you don’t experience that euphoric moment that comes with orgasm, these steps will help you achieve maximum orgasm satisfaction.
Make yourself comfortable
When you’re with a partner, setting your mood can include kissing, foreplay, and exploring each other’s bodies.
If it’s solo sex, you can familiarize yourself with all the other erogenous zones in your body, such as rubbing your nipples.
But if your imagination isn’t setting the fire between your legs, you can watch pornography.
Stimulate the clitoral areas
Use whatever you like: your fingers, your partner’s tongue, or sex toys. You can also try using a showerhead, a vibrator, or even rubbing your underwear against something like a pillow.
Once you are comfortable and ready around the clitoris, it is time to start directly stimulating the clitoris.
Gently stroke your clitoris
The clitoris isn’t just a magic button. You have to be in the mood to be aroused.
You can try gentle back-and-forth strokes, small circular motions, or even a light tap. Listen to your body and know what makes you feel good.
Not everyone will be able to be stimulated or even reach orgasm the first time, during sex, or while masturbating- and that’s fine.
The only thing really important is that you like it. If you’re not having fun, don’t do it.